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First of all like so many other members to our family I want to say thank you for taking the time and actually changing my life. I hate to sound selfish but after growing up with a father whose life goal is to make a wine with all the letters in the alphabet to having and over protective very skeptical mother who always sees the negative in everything in life. I feel like since i was brought up in this environment it left me with no self confidence and no self esteem. I had gained over 100 pounds since high school and I am a retired Army veteran. I would like to be at the top of my game whether it is meeting women or getting back into shape. Could anyone help me out?